Other people’s opinions of you are none of your business…
Well, how about that? Opinions are basically judgments – someone’s perception of something. Judgment’s often come with or as expectations…one’s judgment on how something or someone “should” be.
But – what other people think you should do or be, or another person’s opinion/judgment of you is none of your business…unless you make it your business by getting caught up in a pleasing drama “trying” to live up to someone else’s judgment or expectation.
Another person’s judgment, belief or expectation is based off their life, beliefs, path, and where they are in their own growth. These things are often based off reaction and not truth. It comes down to perception. I like waffles. Someone else may not like waffles. This doesn’t mean that waffles are good or bad – it simply means that one person likes them and another doesn’t. I do not like celery. In fact, for a long time I refused to even look at it in the grocery bin. Celery to me was the ultimate in awful. Now replace celery with something else. I do not like _______ . This could be a person, an event, a race, a movie, a decision someone made, etc. The only truth about celery for me is that I don’t like it. Celery keeps right on being celery in all its celery-ness. My opinion of celery doesn’t change anything because celery doesn’t react to my opinion of it.
What other people think of you doesn’t actually change anything – unless you react to it. But then, it’s not the other person or their opinion fueling your reaction. It’s your own belief about yourself that is.
So, be like celery. Be you in all your You-Ness, and let other people’s opinions be theirs. Focus on your beliefs about yourself instead.